Eighteen months ago I had a feeling. I read about the free genetic cancer screenings being offered through my state and felt strongly that I should do it.
I didn’t have a particular reason for getting genetic testing—I knew I had some family history of cancer but nothing super worrisome—but I felt compelled. When my test kit arrived, I spit into the two provided tubes and dropped them in the return mail.
Read MoreIf our love leads to violence… If our love causes harm… If our love is experienced as hatred, rejection, or indifferenc
We’re doing it wrong.
If our love shames… If our love diminishes… If our love leaves scars…
We’re doing it wrong.
Read MoreSeveral years ago, my marriage underwent a fundamental shift—a total and complete overhaul of how we defined the word “partnership” in the context of our relationship. This shift made it possible for us to not just stay together, but for both of us to thrive as individuals and as a couple. Prior to this shift, I don’t think either of us really believed that was possible.
Read MoreThis pressure to distill ourselves down into one easily digestible nugget, as if we were a tagline incarnate, robs us of our nuance. It feeds stereotypes and fuels tribalism by making us believe that people with similar personal “brands” must all agree on everything. It trains us to believe people are simple, one-dimentional, easy to understand, and therefore easy to judge.
But it’s not that easy. We are all much more than can ever be communicated on social media, and (if we’re healthy) we don’t fitneatly into boxes or stereotypes.
Read MoreWatching your friends get radicalized by domestic extremists is one of those things that feels like it’ll never happen to you. Especially when the friends in question are all nice, white, Christian moms.
Read MoreLike many of you, I’ve been grieving the gun violence that is plaguing our nation. I’ve been processing. Trying to find a path forward amidst all the understandable rage and unhelpful social media arguments.
After weeks of mind-spinning, the question I keep coming back to is this:
Why are we framing the conversation about how to curb gun violence as a matter of opinion? It’s not a matter of opinion. There’s data (cold, hard numbers) about which tactics are effective and which are not.
Read MoreHow we tell stories—both to ourselves and others—matters deeply.
Read MoreI am writing this in hopes that it will lead to peace, healing, and wholeness. Those are, after all, the values that drew me to your team in 2016 and they still inspire me to this day. They’re also the reason I cannot sit by and watch you preach peace while you bully, gaslight, and abuse the peacemakers on your team until they give up and quit.
Read MoreEven small acts of breaking seemingly insignificant social norms can have massive ripple effects in breaking down unjust social systems and disrupting unjust power structures.
Read MoreWatching hundreds of people commit treasonous, violent crimes and attempt to overthrow our democratic government in the name of patriotism made me marvel at the power of making people feel seen.
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